| |
| |
|
Stress Management Information |
|
|
|
Stress Managment and Mastery: 7 Ways to Take Yourself Off Restriction
Q. So many times in my life, I seem to hold myself back from what I want to do. I make great plans and have great intentions, but then end up holding myself back in some way. Do you have any suggestions for changing this? A. When you were a kid, did you ever do something wrong and get put on restrictions? You know, no TV, stay in your room, can't play with friends, for what seemed like an eternity? What would it be like if we were still on the same restrictions from when we were kids? It would seem kind of silly, would it not? And yet we tend to keep ourselves "on restriction" in so many areas of our lives. These restrictions tend to fall into certain categories. See if any of these fit for you. 1) I can't: Ask for what I want. Be successful. Get the right job. Stand up for myself. 2) I shouldn't: Go for what I want. Act selfish. Say no. Think for myself. 3) I'm only: Good at one thing. A young person. An old person. 4) I don't have: The right genes. The right connections. 5) I have: Too much against me. A bad attitude. 6) They said: I couldn't do it. I wouldn't make it. 7) I'm too: Young, old, fat, thin. If you recognized yourself in any of these restrictions, don't despair. Look at it this way. When we were kids, parents could put us on restrictions and take us off. But now we are adults. We can take ourselves off restrictions. How? There are three steps. 1. Question the restriction. Here are some questions to ask: Does this make sense? Does this fit in my life? Does it help me meet my goals? Does it help me to feel and act the way I want? If you can't get a yes to any of these questions, it's time to discard the restriction as no longer useful in your life. 2. Make fun of the restriction. Have you ever gently teased yourself about something in your life? I don't mean in a negative or mean sense. You need to be able to laugh at your own self-imposed limitations. 3. Replace it with an ability. Here's a general rule about changing restrictions: Never remove a restriction without replacing it with a belief that strengthens you. Take, for example, one of the statements above: "I can't ask for what I want." After you have questioned and laughed at the restriction, simply replace it with "I can ask for anything I want, I just need to learn how." See the difference? Visit SecretsofGreatRelationships.com for tips and tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our f*r*e*e 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.
MORE RESOURCES:
Stress-Management - Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
Are You Soakin' It Up? ?And holding it way down inside you like an old sponge? Be careful. Just like an old sponge that's held its liquid a little too long, we may start to get stinky in a day or two. Stressed? Go on a Quick Getaway Did you know that taking a short trip, such as over President's Day weekend, or anytime, can have the same stress-reducing effects as a longer one? According to a Stanford University psychiatrist, David Spiegel, our minds shift into a more relaxed state during the first few days of a trip. When we have been away from home for long trips we tend to slightly increase our stress, or dread, coming back to home or work. Overcome the Top 10 Causes of Workplace Stress Workplace stress is on the rise and it's costing corporate America a fortune. Some estimate that 80% of health care costs are stress related, and these expenses go right to the bottom line. Create Reserves for a Stress Free Life One of the ways I have avoided a lot of stress the last two years is to have a stockpile of birthday and all occasion greetings cards in my filing cabinet. When you work at home like I do, you try to have the least interruptions to your day as possible. It is Looking Up for Stress Relief No this is not related to praying, this is how your brain works. Looking up will reduce your stress?. Why Stress Is Not Necessary We are not designed for long term stress.It causes us physical damage. 10 Ways to Reduce Commuting Stress Do you get out of your car with a queasy stomach, a headache and your blood pressure registering through the roof? If you do, that energy vulture called stress may have sent your pulse skyrocketing. In a study conducted at the University of California at Irvine, researchers found that the stress of commuting takes a major toll on health. The Top Seven Causes Of Workplace Stress And Fifteen Ways To Get Rid Of Them Anyone who has ever worked knows that stress is part of the workplace. Stress in itself is not bad, in fact, we can't live without it. Stress Management: 7 Universal Laws for Managing Change 1. The Law of StagnationThis is also known as first order change. Stress Management: Holding On Vs. Dropping It One of the dumbest things I have ever done is grab a hot iron by the bottom.We were rushing out of the house for a trip a few years back. Stress Managment and Mastery: Learning to Rebound Q. I've suffered a few setbacks and disappointments in the last year and seem to be bogged down in them. Stress Mangement and Mastery: How to Defeat Sunday Night Syndrome Picture the following scene:It's Sunday evening, the weekend is winding down and you're beginning to think about the work week ahead. What are your feelings?Do you find yourself excited and challenged, looking forward to another week of doing something you love? The most fortunate among us get to feel that way on a regular basis. FEAR: How to Defeat the Monster What is the greatest fear of man? Is it death? Pain? Poverty? Physical ailments? Loneliness? Surveys tell us that the number one fear among modern people is public speaking, of all things!What is fear? We all know what it feels like, but what exactly is it? The dictionary defines fear as "A painful emotion or passion excited by the expectation of evil, or the apprehension of impending danger; apprehension; anxiety; solicitude; alarm; dread; to be anxious or solicitous for." That sounds rather ominous, and it is. Stress Can Create Symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder Stress can affect virtually any part of the body and produce physical, mental and emotional symptoms weakening the immune system and impairing coordination and thinking ability. Stress comes from relationships, from school or work situations, and from our own expectations. Top Ten Ways to Reduce Your Stress at Home Top Ten Ways to Reduce Your Stress at Home1. Create a communication center on the fridge for messages, chores etc. Coping with Stress Everyone experiences stress at some point in their life. In fact, stress is a natural part of life. Putting Your Life in Perspective Do you often overreact to situations? Are you a constant worrier? Do you look at the glass as always half empty?One of the greatest stress management tools you can possess is the ability to put everything into perspective. How you perceive your life has a profound effect on how you deal with stress and your level of happiness. Why Stress Management Programmes Don't Work Why Stress Management programmes don't work?It seems that every week there's yet another report telling us how serious the problem of Stress is becoming - how many working days are lost (anything between 6.5 million and 90 million days depending on whose report you read), how much it costs industry, what percentage of workers experience Stress, and so on. How to Cope With Stress and Anxiety Among the hardest parts of living in the modern world is stress and anxiety. With worries about work, the environment, the economy, natural disasters, terrorism, and the general state of the world, it seems that there is no end to the number of things to worry about. Children Playing - How Play Is Important To Kids And Adults You can learn a lot by watching children playing. There is no greater sight than to see children pretending to be superheroes or digging for treasure in a sandbox.
|
| home | site map |
| © 2006 |
